The G Spot and Female Ejaculation (Or Squirting)
In her workshops, Deborah Sundahl offers women the chance to see their G spot, so they can discover what it looks like. And then, having shown women that they do indeed have a G spot, she takes them through an exercise which will awaken its sensitivity.
Here’s a diagram essential for all would-be squirters:
Awakening the G spot will, she claims, allow the women to enjoy penetration much more. But on first stimulation of their G spot, some women report that they feel nothing, and some women report that it feels uncomfortable – just like they need to pee.
These are all necessary steps in learning how to squirt, or, if you are a man, learning how to make a woman squirt. If you or your partner is ever going to learn how to squirt, you have to break through, or move over or around the initial discomfort and inhibition.
To start, you need to know that the G spot is an area of tissue which has a complex of nerve junctions that seem to hold the energy of sexual wounding. No wonder that it may feel numb or uncomfortable.
So what’s the G spot, source of female ejaculation, actually feel like? Well, the first few times a woman (or her partner) explores her G spot, she may feel an area of tissue that is different inside her vagina; with ridges on its surface which tend to disappear as a woman becomes more sexually aroused. (Read more on this here.)
But often she will say that the G spot itself feels numb, or uncomfortable, or that she’s not getting any pleasure from stimulating it.
Another idea about the G Spot
Could it be that the G spot is just part of the clitoris? We now know that the clitoris surrounds the vagina. See the picture below for details about this. You can see how the clitoral legs surround the vaginal barrel. Then watch the video for even more information on this.
Laci Green On The Vagina, Clitoris & G Spot
Sensitizing the G Spot: How A Woman Can Squirt
With more touch and contact on her G spot, and gentle massage with a finger, it’s possible for a woman to become more sexually aroused. At first, of course, it’s possible that such stimulation of the G spot may simply seem like a mechanical exercise. It may even be devoid of feeling. And it may not feel anything like stimulation of her clitoris.
But as a woman – or her partner – continues to stimulate her G spot, she will most likely begin to feel something more profound.
Sensations may pass down her legs, and she may start to feel genuine arousal which makes her want to stimulate her clit as well. These are all great first steps in the process of learning how to squirt, or, if you are the lucky partner, in discovering how to make a woman squirt. (This may be the best thing you ever do sexually for your girl – helping her learn how to squirt.)
As you go on with continued stimulation, the texture of the G spot will change: it becomes much more smooth. And small bursts of sensations down her legs will indicate that her arousal is increasing, and that ejaculation is possible.
With continued stimulation of her G spot, as she alternately relaxes and pushes (that is, pushing out as though she’s trying to pee), ejaculatory fluid will continue to build.
And then of course when the G spot is swollen, when it is full of ejaculatory fluid, and the erectile tissue around her urethra is full of blood, the woman can “push out” as if she was trying to pee… though she won’t in fact do so.
This state of arousal, combined with relaxation, while a woman stimulates her G spot, can lead to female ejaculation even without orgasm. This information is important for any man wanting to know how to make a girl squirt.
You see, women are restrained by cultural values from being fully sexual. In fact, culturally, the belief still lingers at some level that being blatantly and openly sexual is somehow unfeminine, even inappropriate, for women.
And raised with the influence of the Internet, many young women are growing up with the idea that they must do whatever their man wants, regardless of how they feel about it, with added pressure from the cultural shame which comes from this. You see, in our culture there is still a belief underpinning female sexuality that a woman should be a “good girl”.
And being a good girl definitely doesn’t allow for the uninhibited emotions and experience of female ejaculation.
The Clitoris – by Laci Green
Learning How To Squirt
So let’s start with some of the basics: just what exactly is female ejaculation?
At the simplest level, it’s necessary to understand that female ejaculation is a natural and beautiful experience, although perhaps a somewhat mysterious one for the majority of women (and men) who haven’t experienced it.
But when you look beyond the individual experience of squirting, or not knowing how to squirt, what you come to understand is that female ejaculation, also known as squirting or gushing, is a natural sexual response for the feminine body.
And learning how to make a woman squirt goes well beyond the physical process of ejaculation, because it serves as an entry point for exploration of the deeper mysteries of female sexuality and femininity.
How to Make Your Girl Squirt
Exploration of the G spot and female ejaculation – otherwise known as squirting – started in the 1980s. You might wonder why we were so slow to discover female ejaculation and squirting, let alone the ways in which men could help a woman to squirt. Why was this knowledge about female sexual anatomy and female ejaculation so hard to obtain, and so late in coming (no pun intended!)
Who knows? But whatever the reasons for this, there were several groundbreaking studies in the 1980s which not only explored the nature of female sexual anatomy, but also the nature of female ejaculation.
The first study was conducted by Josephine Lowndes Sevely, who recorded details of the history of female ejaculation. Interestingly enough, she discovered that female ejaculation was known about, explored and discussed as long ago as the 17th century. Even the origin of female ejaculatory fluid (the female prostate) was known about around this time!
A second study by the Federation For Feminist Women’s Healthcare Centres revealed that the structure of the clitoris is much larger than anybody had previously known – a large proportion of it being hidden inside the body around the vaginal barrel.
The third significant discovery was made by Perry and Whipple, who identified a particularly sensitive area on the upper wall of the vagina which they nicknamed the G spot (after German researcher Ernst Grafenberg). They discovered that this spot appeared to be responsible for producing a particular type of orgasm different to the clitoral orgasm, and stimulating female ejaculation as well.
Various studies followed, including chemical analysis of female ejaculatory fluid.
From: M. Zaviacic et. al. 2000 “The Female Prostate” quoted in www.clitoris-information.com
In most women the prostate is near the external urethral opening. The female prostate is known to produce and also to store prostatic fluid in ducts which drain into the urethra. It also produces serotonin. Female ejaculate can be ejaculated from the female urethra during sex; it’s a fluid with a clear, milky, or yellowish coloration and a distinct musky or pungent scent; it contains Prostate Specific Antigen (PSA), Prostatic Acidic Phosphatase (PAP), Prostate Specific Acid Phosphatase (PSAP), Glucose, Creatinine, blood Urea Nitrogen, Potassium, Sodium and Chloride. Women who ejaculate during orgasm say it is sometimes clear and odorless and sometimes times thick and pungent. All women have a prostate gland so they all produce ejaculate, even if it seeps out unnoticed during sexual activity – especially at the moment of orgasm. Fluid in the prostate is released or expelled during orgasm as a woman’s pelvic muscles contract. Fluid released during ejaculation can a few drops, a teaspoonful or as much as two cups, according to some exponents of the art…who knows? It may be that these women are actually urinating. But the female prostate produces fluid while a woman is sexually aroused, so multiple releases of fluid can occur. This may account for the larger volumes of fluid.
Although all of these studies (and many more) seem to be provide conclusive proof of the existence of the G spot, and make explicit the distinction between fluid produced by female prostatic tissue and urine, in recent times different researchers have taken up the challenge of research into the G spot, and there are some who are now beginning to suggest that not only does the G spot not exist, but that female ejaculatory fluid is actually urine. (it’s not!)
Where we stand at the moment is in the midst of a vigorous debate between supporters and believers on one hand and the skeptics on the other!
For me, one of the most compelling and conclusive pieces of evidence about the genuine nature of female ejaculation is the fact that anyone who’s experienced it, as my partner and I have, will know the fluid which gushes from a woman at the moment of orgasm tastes and smells quite different to urine. We also know, from personal experience, that the G spot can produce an orgasm without clitoral stimulation.
Furthermore, when an orgasm is produced by a combination of clitoral and G spot stimulation, it combines the qualities of the clitoral orgasm and the vaginal orgasm.
So this really isn’t an act of faith: it’s an act of personal experience.
The Mystery Of Why Not All Women Squirt
One of the reasons that people seem to think female ejaculation doesn’t exist is because not all women ejaculate. Or at least, not all women appear to ejaculate.
But the fact of the matter is that all women can ejaculate, but they may not be aware of it.
The fact is that when men know how to make a woman squirt, they can make love in a way which helps women to produce a trickle of fluid from the urethra at or around the time of orgasm which far exceeds their usual vagina lubrication. The main requirements for this are romantic loving sex that extends over a long period of time, close intimacy, and slow and gentle G spot stimulation over a prolonged period.
When women gush (or even trickle) they may feel that they’ve urinated, because they don’t understand what this fluid is.
Also, we now understand that women can sometimes be so resistant to the idea of releasing fluid during sexual activity that they “clamp down” on the emission of the fluid so it’s forced backwards, up into the bladder… which probably explains why some researchers maintain that female ejaculate is merely some kind of diluted urine.
By now, I am sure you can see this is a complicated area, and somewhat controversial too. But Deborah Sundahl has spent a lot of time and energy teaching women how to squirt and educating women about the possibility of female ejaculation, and I’m quite sure that she knows what she’s talking about!
So when she says that one reason some women produce only small amounts of ejaculatory fluid is because a woman may be conditioned to clamp down with her pelvic muscles to prevent its release, I believe her. Often women do this because they think they “need to pee”.
But learning how to make a girl squirt, or for the women herself, learning how to squirt, is a delicate area, for sure.
Another aspect of this whole thing is the practical aspect of PC muscle control, and whether these muscles are generally tense or relaxed. Dr Francisco Cabello has done a study in which he tested urine in the bladder for PSA (prostate specific antigen) before and after sex.
He demonstrated very clearly that women who don’t ejaculate show more PSA in their urine after orgasm than before. This seems to indicate that a lot of women clampdown on their ejaculation, and the fluid is forced back into the bladder.
Give Yourself Permission: Learn How To Squirt!
When a woman decides that she wants to ejaculate, she makes a conscious choice which gives her permission and freedom to fully explore the capacity and ability of her female body to do what it is capable of doing. And in doing so – in other words, by choosing to ejaculate – she will increase not only her own sexual pleasure, but the pleasure of her partner. For most men are very keen on knowing how a girl can gush, and given the chance want to learn how to make their woman squirt.
Equally, if a woman chooses not to ejaculate, she has taken control of her sexuality in a different way.
But to remain ashamed of ejaculation, and to doubt the reality of it, or to fear it because of embarrassment about releasing fluid, is a pathway that serves nobody, including the woman and her partner.